Broken Nails

Gone are the days when I used to tell you the minutest of details

When you were the closest person to me
Even though you were on the other side of the land

Now I try to send awkward messages to keep in touch
And with every enter I press I watch our friendship wither away.

Because I’m no longer the first person you call to complain about broken nails;
And I’m not sure if you want to know about my broken nails anymore.

Because every time I want to, I feel this wall between us.
Pushing harder and harder against me, suffocating me in all that’s left unsaid.

But you forgot about my claustrophobia, didn’t you?

It’s okay, because even if you’re not there, I’ll always be here, waiting
At the point where broken nails and triple sundaes meet.

You may have left the shore, but I was always too fond of the beach to leave.

Friend

Because Being an Open-Minded Woman Does Not Mean I’m Blindly Following the West.

Let me start by clarifying one thing: Feminism is the fight for equal opportunities for both women and men.
Since time immemorial, the problem with society has been that it has given more privileges and importance to men. This is known as a patriarchal society where men are considered to be more dominant and women inferior. Perhaps the only exception to this would be the Amazonian society, but that disregarded men completely, so let’s not discuss that right now.

Now what outrages me is that when people say feminism is a bad thing and are anti-feminists. I mean do they not understand that feminism is something that will benefit society as a whole?

I have come across articles which are against feminism and feature women holding placards stating why they don’t need feminism, or why they feel feminism is sexist. These placards usually have signs like “I don’t need feminism because I am not oppressed.”
And the only thing going through my mind at that time is what does this first world woman even know about oppression?? Does she know that there are women around the world who are fighting for one chance to get an education? That many women are blatantly denied what she takes for granted, just because they belong to the female gender. What does this woman know about not being able to rise in her firm or earn the same salary as a male co-worker, even though she is working equally as hard as him, because she is a woman? What does this woman sitting in her air conditioned three storied house know about the woman somewhere in the world who has to walk miles to fetch a bucket of water? What does this woman know about that single mother, who never got an education, but is working tooth and nail to ensure that her daughter or son never has to work that hard in life?
Granted, I am judging this woman based on a photo that I saw on the internet, but if she has the resources to sit in front of a computer and upload a photo like that, I’d say she is better off than most of the women I talked about above.

Many say that feminism is bad as it creates a divide in society and fights for a privileged treatment of women.
But here’s the shocker: Feminism is the fight for equal opportunities, for both women and men. It is the fight to bridge the divide in society, which is caused because of society’s patriarchal nature. It’s not asking for better treatment of women, it is only asking that women get the same, equal rights and privileges as men, in all fields.
Yes, there are women out there who are making it on their own, but not all women are equipped enough to make it on their own. For example, a girl child in a village in any south Asian or African country might be expected to work at home rather than go to school, as according to the sexual division of labor the patriarchal society has established, she is supposed to stay at home and take care of the house, and education would ‘do her no good’. Hence, she is not sent to school, and so is not equipped with the basic thing she needs to make it on her own: education.

Feminism aims at bringing education to that little girl, who longs to grow up and change the world (come on cynics, every child wants to change the world at some point or another!).

And that is why India needs feminism. India needs feminism as that little girl, if given the right opportunities, may one day become the Prime Minister, and actually make a change. India needs feminism because I should not be the only one who is told to be safe when I go out of the house, but my brother should be told the same and both of us should be taught to behave ourselves. India needs feminism because people need to understand that just because I am wearing certain kinds of clothes, I am not ‘asking for it’. India needs feminism because the housework my mother or didi does needs to be valued as much as the work my father or didi’s husband does outside the house. India needs feminism because that little baby girl who just got aborted or burned alive for being a girl deserves a chance at life. India needs feminism as people need to understand that the woman who just got appointed as a minister might only be a college graduate or less, but she is certainly more qualified to run the ministry than that man sitting next to her who can’t even talk to save his life and only cares about the money that will go into his Swiss Bank Account. India needs feminism because when my friend wants to pursue fashion designing instead of engineering he should not be called names and poked fun at for choosing a ‘girly’ job. India needs feminism because I am not the devil incarnate for believing that a woman should think for herself. India needs feminism because I should not be taught from an early age to be embarrassed about being loud and tom boyish-that I should be quiet and delicate- unlike my brother who is taught to be loud and aggressive. India needs feminism because people need to understand that I am just as capable of getting the job done as my male counterpart, even if it requires lifting a load. India needs feminism because it can no longer be a patriarchal society: it has to be an equal society.  The world needs feminism because at the end of the day, it did not start with just Adam or just Eve, but with both of them. Because this world needs equality between the two sexes for development and progress.
Yes, there are many men also who are not given opportunities, feminism aims at bringing equality to all. If both girls and boys are not getting an education in a village, then feminism will ensure that both of them get an equal opportunity and chance at education. Think about all the problems that men face, because they aren’t ‘macho’ enough. Feminism aims at eradicating those problems. It aims at blaming the rapist for a rape, and not the victim, regardless of the gender of either. It aims at all humans being able to express emotions and feelings, even themselves, regardless of their gender. It aims for a world where if my son wants to be a nurse and my daughter a WWE fighter, I won’t have to tell them to ignore the jokes: because there would be no jokes. People would accept it as normal and move on!

Feminism is not that I don’t want a guy to carry my grocery bags (if I’m tired, then why not?). But it is the fact that more often than not, I am capable enough, strong enough, to carry them myself.

Obligatory Introduction? Obligatory Introduction.

Hi there, and welcome to this cozy-ish place! (It’s under renovation ok, your fav Mc D’s wasn’t built in a day!)

My name is Lalantika Arvind. Nice people can call me Lalan.
My age, at least according to me is inconsequential. After all, what age would we be if we didn’t know the number?

If there’s something that bugs me, that nags me, that makes me go GAHH on the inside like something is burning  (yep, acidity) I write about it. I write and write until I’ve poured out all the rage and emotion.
And apparently, my rage an emotion and opinions can be somewhat amusing. Or so I’ve been told.
And I do love the rain, stars, seas, writing and revolution. So there’s definitely gonna be a lotta love on this page. (I grew up on DDLJ and HSM. Romance is an innate tendency now, even though for the most part it’s with inanimate objects)

Hence, I’m writing this blogh. Well, if you wanna know the latest on what’s causing me gastric distress, pop by occasionally and get first hand experience (well, more like second-hand I guess, but that’s just technicalities). And of course, constructive criticism is absolutely welcome. (Though don’t be a meanie-pie, meanie-pies are BAD.)

Have a good day mate!